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Feb. 5th, 2011 06:43 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
donnalotus I posted this comment earlier to moonvoice
"Hmmmm. Well at this point I don't know what to do about her. I know that I won't be emailing her anymore because every single thing I said was twisted about. M is definitely right, people can't handle the Lodge when they're in the shadow. Now we're all a bunch of cult crazies apparently who are going to come and drum under her window and howl at the moon or something.
Here's a sample of tonight's madness: Start of phone call, she starts dramatising to Michael about how I'm going to force her to be a part of the family activities (which include making her cook for us) whether she wants to be a part or not, and all she wants is her privacy and to be left alone. Not 30 mins later she's dramatising that we're going to stick her down the end of the house and ignore her for the rest of her life and she's not welcome in our lives. How exactly do you counter that?
I'm of the mind that we really should pull out, I think this is all too much for her and she's hit a point of hysteria, however when Michael suggested that to her and told her she can pull out at any time and we won't be pissed off, she guilted him by saying it would cost her $12,000 to renege on the current offer. So yeah, she wants this to go ahead, she just wants us to kowtow (sp?) to her ever whim and do exactly what she wants.
I really hope I can just breathe this through and transform it. Hopefully when she sees we're not about to run out and put an offer on just any old house that's parked next to Aboriginal drunks (which is apparently also something we're going to do) she'll settle down a bit.
*sigh*
Mother in law from Hell huh?"
I think I slept about... maybe 4 hours last night. My whole body is a shaking mess at the moment but I'm done sleeping, I feel nauseous, I wish it was warmer so I could go jump in the ocean. Maybe later today if the sun actually comes out from behind the clouds and smoke (bushfires are under control but it's still very smoky here).
Can't shake the feeling that I'm selling my soul to the Devil.
I've just entered the second trimester. I received ideas for the book on "Spiritual Pregnancy" that M and I are writing and some information around how the first year (from conception to baby being 3 mths old) is like walking the Medicine Wheel in a way. Coyote got me real good in the South, very hard lessons about over-sharing, trusting people in the shadow to interpret things in a normal way, and just keeping my mouth shut in general. I'm going West now, I think I need to hibernate with Bear and vision for a bit, wow, the Equinox energy is really pulling already, or maybe it's just the medicine wheel in general. Going to have to go and spend some time in quiet contemplation there I think because everything I've done up until now has just gotten FUBARed; time to change tactics, just need to be shown what those tactics are now.
Breakfast in an hour, I wish I'd picked 7:30am instead of 8am, but then who knew I wasn't going to get any bloody sleep last night, meh.
moonvoice "Hmmmm. Well at this point I don't know what to do about her. I know that I won't be emailing her anymore because every single thing I said was twisted about. M is definitely right, people can't handle the Lodge when they're in the shadow. Now we're all a bunch of cult crazies apparently who are going to come and drum under her window and howl at the moon or something.
Here's a sample of tonight's madness: Start of phone call, she starts dramatising to Michael about how I'm going to force her to be a part of the family activities (which include making her cook for us) whether she wants to be a part or not, and all she wants is her privacy and to be left alone. Not 30 mins later she's dramatising that we're going to stick her down the end of the house and ignore her for the rest of her life and she's not welcome in our lives. How exactly do you counter that?
I'm of the mind that we really should pull out, I think this is all too much for her and she's hit a point of hysteria, however when Michael suggested that to her and told her she can pull out at any time and we won't be pissed off, she guilted him by saying it would cost her $12,000 to renege on the current offer. So yeah, she wants this to go ahead, she just wants us to kowtow (sp?) to her ever whim and do exactly what she wants.
I really hope I can just breathe this through and transform it. Hopefully when she sees we're not about to run out and put an offer on just any old house that's parked next to Aboriginal drunks (which is apparently also something we're going to do) she'll settle down a bit.
*sigh*
Mother in law from Hell huh?"
I think I slept about... maybe 4 hours last night. My whole body is a shaking mess at the moment but I'm done sleeping, I feel nauseous, I wish it was warmer so I could go jump in the ocean. Maybe later today if the sun actually comes out from behind the clouds and smoke (bushfires are under control but it's still very smoky here).
Can't shake the feeling that I'm selling my soul to the Devil.
I've just entered the second trimester. I received ideas for the book on "Spiritual Pregnancy" that M and I are writing and some information around how the first year (from conception to baby being 3 mths old) is like walking the Medicine Wheel in a way. Coyote got me real good in the South, very hard lessons about over-sharing, trusting people in the shadow to interpret things in a normal way, and just keeping my mouth shut in general. I'm going West now, I think I need to hibernate with Bear and vision for a bit, wow, the Equinox energy is really pulling already, or maybe it's just the medicine wheel in general. Going to have to go and spend some time in quiet contemplation there I think because everything I've done up until now has just gotten FUBARed; time to change tactics, just need to be shown what those tactics are now.
Breakfast in an hour, I wish I'd picked 7:30am instead of 8am, but then who knew I wasn't going to get any bloody sleep last night, meh.
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Date: 2011-02-05 12:05 am (UTC)I am so sorry you're dealing with this though; especially while pregnant, which can be difficult enough as it is!
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Date: 2011-02-05 08:42 am (UTC)The other is the house I wasn't as keen on because it has little to no garden, no trees, etc. BUT it does have two separate living houses - the main house (which would be ours) is 3 bedrooms and a MASSIVE living area and kitchen. She would have a two-bedroom unit out the back of the yard, completely separate from our home. No room for a pool, little room for fruit trees to be planted, and there is some room for a vegie garden, sandpit/swing for the baby etc. It has a really nice deck off the back of the house which we would put a hot tub on.
I was so distressed leaving the other property at first. But given the situation we went through last night with his mother, I think we need to separate her energy entirely from ours, and so the second house is what we're leaning toward. Michael is on the phone at the moment with her, and we're basically swinging it as "It's not Donna's first choice *guilt guilt guilt* but he thinks it's the best choice. blah blah blah.
Given how much she dislikes me right now, I think she'll go for it, and preferably, I will never have to have much to do with her at all, which I think is the best at this time.
There is also the option that when does finally kick the bucket, Mum may be able to move into that unit which would be nice.