Trade offs
Jan. 20th, 2011 09:36 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
donnalotusSo the house didn't eventuate. It was a close call from the sounds of things, we put in our offer which was mid-range for what they were asking. The real estate agent who was writing up the contract (we've been dealing with his PA instead of him) said they don't usually do conditional offers based on sale of other properties - which is contrary to what nearly EVERYONE ELSE I've talked to has told me, so we were a little perplexed about that. I told him we didn't want to waste his or our time if there wasn't even a chance of the offer being considered. He wandered off to talk to the agent holding the other offer, and then came back in and said he'd write it up and see what the vendors said.
That told me what I already suspected, that the other offer was low (which isn't surprising because we were going to offer a low end bid at first too). So we put it in, crossed fingers and waited. The vendors did debate it out for over 2 hours I will say that much. They rang the agent selling Michael's mum's house in Perth and talked to her, and they did consider the offer seriously, but they thought it just a little too risky that her place might not sell quickly, so they went with the other offer. I'm not really surprised, it was always going to come down to whether it was the money they wanted, or the time factor. Obviously it was the time factor.
We're now going to have to break the news to his mum, who is starting to stress out about the whole thing. But realistically, it's looking like she needs to sell her place first so we can put in cash offers for the houses we like. Which she's stressed about doing, but it's just going to have to work that way, and we're going to have to figure it out. We might just have to rent for a bit if she sells and we can't find a place that we find acceptable in the meantime. We're also considering borrowing up to $20,000 more to increase our range of houses we can consider too. Another thing we're going to do is perhaps expand on where we will consider buying, and even think about buying in the town we're currently in, bad public transport or not.
Add to that the fact that, yay, I'm pregnant and just not wanting to deal with all this stress right now, I'm a bit overwhelmed. Michael said to me this morning "Well, buying a house is meant to be one of the most stressful times of your life," my response was "So is having a baby! How is it that we've somehow ended up doing BOTH at the SAME TIME?!"
Ugh.
That being said, the nausea has passed for the most part, thank god because work was so going to start suspecting something if I took any more days off for "gastro". I want to wait at least another 3-4 weeks before I tell them in the hopes that something more concrete in relation to my job comes about............... so yes, I have three stresses - houses, pregnancy and job security right now. Not to mention Michael's mum has taken to emailling me thinking that she'll get quicker responses from me than him, and I just don't want to deal right now. She's chastising me in one email saying I can't be stressing when I'm pregnant, then sending another email 12 hours later about how stressed and distraught she is over the house situation. Yep, this is going to be my life for probably the next 5-10 years.
Thrilled about the baby.
Excited about having our own home eventually.
Not so happy about dealing with his mother on a daily basis.
Last night M shared with me something her photography mentor used to always say: "There's always tradeoffs in life." You just have to decide what you're willing to give up to have the things that you do want.
Today's Moon Meditation from Yasmin Boland is:
The Buddhists talk a lot about the power of non-attachment and non-aversion (it's crucial to consider both!) Where in your life could you benefit from this? Surrender to the Universe and let the Divine lead! There's a Full Moon today so people are going to be a little more wound up than usual. Try some non-attachment and non-aversion, if you find yourself getting drawn into someone else's issues!
That told me what I already suspected, that the other offer was low (which isn't surprising because we were going to offer a low end bid at first too). So we put it in, crossed fingers and waited. The vendors did debate it out for over 2 hours I will say that much. They rang the agent selling Michael's mum's house in Perth and talked to her, and they did consider the offer seriously, but they thought it just a little too risky that her place might not sell quickly, so they went with the other offer. I'm not really surprised, it was always going to come down to whether it was the money they wanted, or the time factor. Obviously it was the time factor.
We're now going to have to break the news to his mum, who is starting to stress out about the whole thing. But realistically, it's looking like she needs to sell her place first so we can put in cash offers for the houses we like. Which she's stressed about doing, but it's just going to have to work that way, and we're going to have to figure it out. We might just have to rent for a bit if she sells and we can't find a place that we find acceptable in the meantime. We're also considering borrowing up to $20,000 more to increase our range of houses we can consider too. Another thing we're going to do is perhaps expand on where we will consider buying, and even think about buying in the town we're currently in, bad public transport or not.
Add to that the fact that, yay, I'm pregnant and just not wanting to deal with all this stress right now, I'm a bit overwhelmed. Michael said to me this morning "Well, buying a house is meant to be one of the most stressful times of your life," my response was "So is having a baby! How is it that we've somehow ended up doing BOTH at the SAME TIME?!"
Ugh.
That being said, the nausea has passed for the most part, thank god because work was so going to start suspecting something if I took any more days off for "gastro". I want to wait at least another 3-4 weeks before I tell them in the hopes that something more concrete in relation to my job comes about............... so yes, I have three stresses - houses, pregnancy and job security right now. Not to mention Michael's mum has taken to emailling me thinking that she'll get quicker responses from me than him, and I just don't want to deal right now. She's chastising me in one email saying I can't be stressing when I'm pregnant, then sending another email 12 hours later about how stressed and distraught she is over the house situation. Yep, this is going to be my life for probably the next 5-10 years.
Thrilled about the baby.
Excited about having our own home eventually.
Not so happy about dealing with his mother on a daily basis.
Last night M shared with me something her photography mentor used to always say: "There's always tradeoffs in life." You just have to decide what you're willing to give up to have the things that you do want.
Today's Moon Meditation from Yasmin Boland is:
The Buddhists talk a lot about the power of non-attachment and non-aversion (it's crucial to consider both!) Where in your life could you benefit from this? Surrender to the Universe and let the Divine lead! There's a Full Moon today so people are going to be a little more wound up than usual. Try some non-attachment and non-aversion, if you find yourself getting drawn into someone else's issues!
