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Feb. 13th, 2011 11:37 amBit tired today. Michael said he thought he'd heard someone walking around outside a few nights ago, so that kept me up thinking about home invasions and didn't subside until well after I'd gone and put the meat cleaver under the bed and a knife between the mattresses... somehow the ability to stab/hack someone to death if they're attacking me made it a lot easier to fall asleep. Go hormones.
It's been over a week since mass-hysteria on the part of MIL occurred but she's still trying to engage Michael in some of it. This after saying, and I quote: "Please let's stop all this stupid bickering, I cannot instantly have feelings for Donna but give it some time and especially with the baby coming, a bond will develop but it cant happen overnight, stop running me down and taking sides because we may choose to disagree or misunderstand. Keep out of it as it is women's business."
She certainly wasn't trying to keep him out of it last night. But he was really good and told her he didn't want to get involved. I told him to read the above quote out to her next time she tries that shit. He'd forgotten she even said it (I'm not sure he really reads her emails, just glosses over the general tone). Apparently I now owe her an apology for taking it public on facebook. I will concede that I posted the following comment: "Has learned a valuable lesson about over sharing and won't be doing it again any time soon!" on FB, but that could relate to anything really. If I'd named her then maybe she'd have an issue, but I'm not going to apologise for telling the truth, it'll be a cold day in Hell.
Michael said something to her about how I expect an apology from her, but she's conveniently forgotten everything she said about me so doesn't understand what she has to apologise for. I've told Michael that he just needs to tell her, if I come up, that things will likely smooth over eventually, don't mention an apology (because let's face it, I'm never getting one) and just allow time to take it's natural course. I will get over it, and my session with the girls on Friday has gone a long way to helping with that, but I will likely never try to befriend her again.
My conversations with her at this point will likely be limited to the baby, her health and well being, her house and her garden, and every day generic matters. I certainly won't be talking about my beliefs, even if she asks, or anything that might be misconstrued as trying to "force her into my way of thinking". Because apparently, that's what this email was doing. She's now saying that "people of her generation didn't talk like that, and she thinks it's inappropriate that I sent the email, and that my beliefs are weird."
So, in an effort to never again either "force her to participate in family events" or "force her to see things my way/ convert her to my belief system" these things will simply not be discussed. I won't be volunteering any information about myself, who I am, or what I believe/practice, nor will she be receiving invitations from me to participate in family gatherings - if Michael wants to invite her, that's his perogative, but it won't be coming from me. I will not have heart-felt words/invitations twisted into something they are not.
It's been over a week since mass-hysteria on the part of MIL occurred but she's still trying to engage Michael in some of it. This after saying, and I quote: "Please let's stop all this stupid bickering, I cannot instantly have feelings for Donna but give it some time and especially with the baby coming, a bond will develop but it cant happen overnight, stop running me down and taking sides because we may choose to disagree or misunderstand. Keep out of it as it is women's business."
She certainly wasn't trying to keep him out of it last night. But he was really good and told her he didn't want to get involved. I told him to read the above quote out to her next time she tries that shit. He'd forgotten she even said it (I'm not sure he really reads her emails, just glosses over the general tone). Apparently I now owe her an apology for taking it public on facebook. I will concede that I posted the following comment: "Has learned a valuable lesson about over sharing and won't be doing it again any time soon!" on FB, but that could relate to anything really. If I'd named her then maybe she'd have an issue, but I'm not going to apologise for telling the truth, it'll be a cold day in Hell.
Michael said something to her about how I expect an apology from her, but she's conveniently forgotten everything she said about me so doesn't understand what she has to apologise for. I've told Michael that he just needs to tell her, if I come up, that things will likely smooth over eventually, don't mention an apology (because let's face it, I'm never getting one) and just allow time to take it's natural course. I will get over it, and my session with the girls on Friday has gone a long way to helping with that, but I will likely never try to befriend her again.
My conversations with her at this point will likely be limited to the baby, her health and well being, her house and her garden, and every day generic matters. I certainly won't be talking about my beliefs, even if she asks, or anything that might be misconstrued as trying to "force her into my way of thinking". Because apparently, that's what this email was doing. She's now saying that "people of her generation didn't talk like that, and she thinks it's inappropriate that I sent the email, and that my beliefs are weird."
So, in an effort to never again either "force her to participate in family events" or "force her to see things my way/ convert her to my belief system" these things will simply not be discussed. I won't be volunteering any information about myself, who I am, or what I believe/practice, nor will she be receiving invitations from me to participate in family gatherings - if Michael wants to invite her, that's his perogative, but it won't be coming from me. I will not have heart-felt words/invitations twisted into something they are not.
