MIL aftermath?

While I'm eternally grateful that I don't live in North Queensland, or well, Queensland in general, it still feels like I've been through the ringer in other areas.

Michael's mum's ability to take one or two quibbles from a massive email and find fault with it is absolutely astounding. She completely ignored my appeal to her more ... compassionate?...side and instead went the route of Michael must be telilng complete and utter lies about everything to do with her, and I need to sit down with him and get the truth. Uh yeah, ok. It was difficult even for ME to read the email, and he read through it first. It must be so heartbreaking to give up 15+ years of your life caring for someone who is so unbelievably ungrateful. He said to me last night "I've never heard her say one nice thing to me."

Gah.

I didn't really know what to respond to. Really. According to her she never came up with the idea to move in with us - as far as she's concerned she mentioned to Michael that she'd like a little more family support, and that led to the idea of moving to Victoria. But she was always apparently going to move into her own place, and have us just visit; she did initially start with that idea, but changed her tune when Michael said he wouldn't be around there every day waiting on her hand and foot. Then she came up with the idea of buying a place together, yet apparently that was Michael's idea and he made the suggestion.

She picked up on the one thing about Lodge that she can pick on (drumming) and said she was concerned about that as she can't have percussion around her because it exacerbates her condition. I know that. I even took my drum with me to Perth when I visited them a couple of Christmases ago.

But anyway. It's frustrating but I'm starting to really see the underlying energy here, which is she is feeling completely out of control and has no say in where we're going to live etc. So I spent some time placating through email talking about the houses and saying I think we'll find something really good in the right area, etc. etc.  She went and picked up on the one possible thing you could get "bad" out of that, which was certain areas of Lakes you don't want to live in because of them being rough areas etc. and now is like "Are you sure you want to move here?"

My answer. "Yes, it doesn't really matter where you go there's always going to be a part of town you avoid - but it's certainly a lot safer and less drug ridden than the city". Then I planted the idea that the best idea is getting the little 5 acre property where we won't have neighbours! heh. So we're leaving this afternoon to Lakes, I'm really looking forward to just getting away. I hope it warms up a bit so I can go swimming!

Feeling sick as right now, yoghurt didn't settle my stomach at all. I wanted BREAD but didn't have time to stop and pick up some on my way to work because school is back today and I didn't compensate for the extra 10-15mins it takes me to get to work because of the sheer volume of cars and buses back on the road for schools (parents taking kids to school, parents going back to work now holidays are over, etc etc) and it took me 20 minutes to drive about 1km once I got to Lilydale. Unfreakingbelievable. I love school holidays, it cuts like 10mins minimum off my drive.